Demand Your Dreams Back

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April 17th, 2012


I’ve been more quiet than usual since temporarily relocating to Florida. Meg and I landed some interim employment- she at a wine bar and me at a tourist restaurant. Both locations sat right on the beach, so back to serving we were. These past ten weeks have given us a healthy padding to our travel funds.


As anyone who has worked in the food and beverage industry knows, there is an initial grace period where your subconscious is flooded with food orders and menu questions and pretty soon you’re having awful dreams about forgetting someone’s water. Unfortunately, I’ll even have these dreams about missing a class in college and realizing I hadn’t gone all semester and it’s the final week and of course, it’s always a damn math class.


Know what I mean?


Anyhow, Meg and I are preparing to leave Florida for a few short days in Chicago (the perfect layover). We have booked our one way ticket out of this fine country of ours and into the land of green, lucky charms, leprechauns, Guinness, and whisky.


Yes, Ireland.


So now I can have my dreams back. No more waking up in the middle of the night questioning myself about menu specials, that party table , or did I even put their order in? No! I can demand my dreams back.


Symbolism aside, I’ve been asking people about their hobbies, life goals, and dreams. To my astonishment, a surprising amount of people had no answers. I realize that the blog world is heavily inspired by Four Hour Work Week folks, dreamers, and people who are at least asking themselves the existential questions of life and their purpose. But it seems to me that a sad lot of people simply aren’t dreaming. They aren’t even pushing for more.


So my realization is simple: you can’t demand your dreams if you aren’t dreaming in the first place.


You can push through crap jobs, awkward living situations, long hours, small wages, uninspired friends, and any other hiccups life can toss your way because you have a vision of bigger things for your life. But you have to at least know what it is you want.


And even if you don’t know what you want, at least figure out what you don’t want. Start there.


Post-script: if you’re in Europe at all this summer and would like to meet up for a tea or a pint, or even a good old fashioned picnic, drop me a line! We plan to head through the Middle East by fall, aiming to hit the trans Siberian train before winter, so the same invite to anyone along the way!


26 Responses

  1. I have this weird feeling that if I don’t go to Patagonia in dec.-jan. my life will be forever unfulfilled. I think my course of life would be different if I don’t take the opportunity to go.

    There is something about stepping into the unknown that is freeing and scary at the same time. I truly believe that my trip will shape me into the person I always wanted to be. I am excited and determined to fulfill my dreams.

    • Matt, you deserve to make that dream a reality. And I have little doubt that it won’t be life changing, but you can make anything a life changing experience. You clearly want more of life, and you’re making it happen. I think this may just be the start of something great for you!

  2. I can and can’t believe it’s almost time to head out of here. I think this “life” has assured us that we are doing the right thing by chasing our dreams of travel. Can’t wait to finally be there with you, overseas that is!

    • You are right Meg. If this whole thing has been anything, it’s been an indicator that we are doing the right thing. We have created our own dreams and we have the determination to always pursue them.

      Let’s not stop! ever!

  3. David,

    Looks like I am going to have to use the buddy pass and meet you in Chicago instead of right here in Florida. We definitely need to hang before you take off.

    I am very happy for you guys. The dream is to grab a beer with you guys in some country on the other side of the world one day.


    • Amit, I’d say a few days of beer and vodka on the trans Siberian sounds good to me!

      The good life!

  4. So excited to hear you are leaving for some serious adventures! So happy for you both!

  5. Wow. I’ve been having that EXACT same dream since about a month or two ago, where I skipped a class in college all semester and now have to take the final. I’ve never had it before but now it has become a reoccuring dream. I just didn’t remember the dream until I read this. That is really unbelievable.

    I, too, am preparing to start traveling the world. I’m leaving in August. I’m going to kayak down the coast of Mexico (Gulf Coast) towards the end of the year. I’ve never kayaked before, so I am definitely worried!

    Thanks for the dream explanation! Have fun in Ireland!

    • There are some interesting theories as to why we have that missed class dream. For some reason I often have it that it’s my final class of college, but the setting is often my middle school. Strange….

      I’m certain there are some deep rooted hangups there.

      You’re trip sounds perfect! Maybe if we make it to Brasil in 2014 we can connect!

  6. Yeah I have a few guesses as to the root of the dream. I was just surprised that it’s a one others have had as well, as I’d never heard of it.

    Yeah, we certainly could meet up! I plan on being in South America for a few years.

    • Sounds good Mitchell! Take your time getting there. You’ve got a lot of adventure ahead of you! Let’s connect in S.A.

      That dream is a strange one, but I often speak freely of my idiosyncrasies. To my surprise this one resonated with a lot of people.

  7. Guiness and trans-syberian train, he? Nice.
    Yes David.
    All I have to do is blink.
    Recently in New Zealand I met a French hitchhiker who did France, Russia, Mongolia, China, South- East Asia, Australia, New Zealand route : 2 years. He was on his way to cross Pacific on a sailing boat.
    So, are you going to change yr blog’s name now?

    • Derek, we aim to couchsurf and camp a fair bit. The slow route sure is a fine one!

      Of course, the blog is still only almost. It’s all a facade. 🙂

  8. Oh, that French guy had a tent and used couch surfing a lot.

  9. I’ve been realizing something extremely similar while I’ve been traveling the past few months. I’m not sure what it is, but the more I see of ‘people’, ‘society’, and ‘civilization’, the more I want to in some sense distance myself from its drearyness. It’s acceptance of the mediocre. It’s encouragement to simply settle.

    In a way, it terrifies me that so many that I see around me are blind to the possibilities around them, and I’m super cautious about sub-consciously, and gradually falling into that place myself…

    • Rob, I can’t imagine ever getting to that point, now that I’ve seen the light so to speak. Then again, I guess no one expect to grow up and yet we all seem to.

      Well, here’s to keeping that fervor!

  10. You make some really great points here. Find out what you want and go for it. I’ve done the crap jobs in the past and honestly life is way too short to put up with them. That’s why I refuse to do anything like that again. No matter what!

    By the way, I went to Ireland last year and had a great time. I rented a car and drove it all over that island. I went everywhere. They offered a GPS for it, but I said no and just used a map. For awhile I was scared that i would just end up lost, but I never did.

    • Yes Steve, I hear that! Now I just have to figure out how to keep my life from NEEDING money bad enough to sell my time and dreams.

      Btw, Ireland is a blast so far! Delightful country, beer, and people!

  11. Oh I couldn’t agree more. I say this all the time. WHY AREN’T WE INSPIRING OUR YOUTH??!!! So few of them know how to DREAM!!!!!!!!!

    Anyhoo – how lovely you and Meg are a-travelling to the emerald isle. 2 of my favourite online folks.

    • Pea, I have to remember where you are located… One of these days our paths outta cross!

      So why is it that we spend the first years of a childs life teaching them to speak and walk, and the rest of their lives to sit and be quiet and ignore their dreams?

  12. Good luck to you and Meg. Hope you two can continue to eat the same healthy vegan menu you’ve been enjoying..

    Let me know if you plan to come anywhere near Marseille i would love to buy you two a pint or two.

    • Annie, it’s on! You know we are coming! Meg’s been already hard at work getting creative on the cheap and we are eating well! It helps to have a creative chef on board!

  13. Lindsay Gattis

    I will be in Ireland for the month of July! I will also be hitting up Scotland and London for the olympics as a 30 th birthday present to myself. Might I meet up with you two for a pint?


    • Lindsay, happy birthday! We had a bit of a change of plans. We are now skipping on Scotland and England for now and heading down to Spain. The cold and rain has pushed us south!

  14. Really awesome article. Hit home with me as I don’t know or can’t remember from a time past what goals I wanted in my life when I was younger. Maybe it’s time I started to get my dreams back.

    I’m in the Highlands of Scotland. Let me know if you passing through and we can get a pint or tea!

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